• “You can do better – but you don’t have to!” | An open letter •

• “You can do better – but you don’t have to!” | An open letter •

Dear Alessandra,

I’m very upset with → your blog post about me and honestly dislike this idea for your column. Not because you don’t like → my outfit – that’s just a matter of taste and nobody has to like my looks. It’s because you simply destroyed the message I keep trying to convey to my readers – wear whatever you want, whenever you want! – and which I want them to understand and live with three little words: not at all.

There are always other options to wear an outfit, better ones and some that look worse. You can always “do better” in someone else’s opinion. That’s why bloggers like to share their looks – to inspire their readers. To empower them to try new things, have fun with fashion, ignore what others think about them and just be free.

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But taking someone’s picture WITHOUT ASKING, modifying it WITHOUT ASKING and well, in general saying that my outfit sucks like this (even though you used nicer words – but remember the post title “not at all”) isn’t okay. And it’s still not okay when you cover my face. And by the way: I’d definitely not look unhappy in the left picture, my original look, but very unhappy in your version of it. Don’t expect people to be happy about your styling “advice” that nobody asked for!

[Here’s a tip: ASK PEOPLE BEFORE YOU SHAME THEM if they want to be a part of your posts because not everyone will act like me, not everyone will take your post as “advice”, some will be offended and your posts might destroy their confidence! Also, there’s something called COPYRIGHT, so make sure you’re allowed to use the pictures (covering the face is no excuse!) because not everyone will act like me and write you why your posts are so horribly wrong – some could use their right to contact a lawyer because you stole their pictures for something that’s definitely not okay!]

Let me also explain that your idea for your look may be a better version of it by using Photoshop and adjusting the clothes to make my body look like it has a certain shape, but: In real life, with this kind of trousers, my short legs would look like elephants’ because my hips and butt need a EU size 48 while my lower legs are pretty slim. Pants like these aren’t cut like in your modified picture – no slimming at the knees, no shape for my legs. And my upper body is an average size 42/44, so the difference would be way too big and make everything look misshaped. A long jacket always hides my small waist which should actually be accentuated, and especially blazers that are longer (or let’s say any jacket that’s longer than boleros) don’t work for me because of the above-mentioned problems (there is no blazer or so that’s a 42 around the shoulders and chest and a 48 around the hips at the same time).

All in all, your idea of a better version of my look would make my 1.60m body look a lot bigger and fatter (which actually is no problem at all – fashion is not only about looking slimmer! – but you wrote about flattering) with a tiny head on top – not even a wide-brimmed hat could help to create a nice symmetry up there.

But seriously: I truly prefer my creativity, my uniqueness and my will to do and wear what I want, even though it may not be flattering, because I like it and feel great in it instead of letting strangers “optimize” me just to make themselves happier with how I look or should look for them.

I also had a look at the other two posts of your → “You can do better” column and I’m very sad and also pretty mad about your choice of words. Please stop using words like “defect” while describing others! Actually, stop describing people altogether! Stop talking about fashion “laws”! And stop thinking that your “optimizations” are improvements to the bloggers’ outfits! You are simply insulting other bloggers! And it is incredibly upsetting that it’s always the plus women themselves bashing other plus women. What you are doing is completely wrong! Especially because nobody – not me, certainly not Tanesha, and probably not the last girl, either, whose picture you used without even linking to her blog – asked you to do this!

I also want to repeat, especially for my readers: if you love your outfit and feel great in it – flaunt it. There’s no need to hide your flaws, no need to please someone else but you – only you.

And lastly, for you, Alessandra: don’t you ever tell someone what they can wear “not at all”. Just don’t.

• My 9 Favorite Plus Size Instagrammers •

• My 9 Favorite Plus Size Instagrammers •

I spend a lot of time on → Instagram. It’s my favorite social media channel and probably the greatest place for inspiration and inspiring people. Today, I want to introduce you to my 9 favorite plus size Instagrammers:

Georgina Cox • Blogger & Model@fullerfigurefullerbust

George is definitely one of my #girlcrush babes. She’s also the best source for tips for women with a fuller bust, since she reviews a lot of plus size underwear and, as you can see, knows what she’s talking about. I really hope to meet her one day!

Silvana Denker • Photographer & Model@silvanadenker

Silvana is a gorgeous German plus-size model and photographer and last year she started the #bodylove project, which is already known all around the globe. Next week (February 20), she’ll shoot in London, so maybe you want to join her or at least see it live?

Asta Nowarra • Blogger & Model@rolypolywardrobe

Asta is one of my favorite #bodypositive people out there. And she takes the greatest pictures of herself! She’s also an amazingly lovely human being, so please go and check out her Insta and get to know her! :)

Gabi Gregg • Blogger & Designer@gabifresh

Gabi is probably every plus blogger’s idol – she just launched another swimwear collection in cooperation with Swimsuits4all and her success is enormous! She also has one of the coolest styles out there, so taking a look is definitely worth it!

Ashley Graham • Model & Designer@theashleygraham

My absolute #girlcrush – for me, she’s the most beautiful woman in the world and I really love what she does. Her work is amazing and now she’s even the first real plus size cover model on Sports Illustrated. But that’s not all: she also has her own lingerie collection at Addition Elle, which is sold worldwide.

Gisella Francisca • Blogger@gisellafrancisca

My favorite Brazilian plus blogger is Gisella, her style is awesome and she deserves a lot more followers! :)

Denise Mercedes • Model@denisemmercedes

Denise is one of the hottest fat chicks out there – and we have the same swimsuit, haha! :) I like that she’s almost always wearing figure-hugging clothes and shows us all that being fat AND sexy is absolutely possible!

Mona Harlem • Blogger@monaharlem

One of only a handful of German bloggers who really dare to live fashion. Mona’s got an amazing style and definitely deserves to be known!

Denise Bidot • Model@denisebidot

Last year, Denise was the face of the Swimsuits4all campaign called #BeachBodyNotSorry (and the reason why I did → my own project around this hashtag). She’s one of the best-known plus models and absolutely gorgeous.

* all photos are taken from their Instagram accounts

Plus Size & Body Acceptance.

ENOn Monday, I was in Brussels with PrimaDonna Lingerie. They presented an expo of vintage pieces and some interesting information about how a PrimaDonna bra is manufactured (it’s made of 45 individual pieces and hand-sewn!). The highlight of the day was their fashion show, with many beautiful women, including top model → Myla Dalbesio (you might know her, she was Calvin Klein’s plus-sized model for an underwear campaign which caused a horrible shitstorm – instead of people admiring the great choice CK made with this beauty!).

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When I posted a picture of her on my Instagram account, one of the first comments was about her and being plus size – which, in the commenter’s opinion, is not okay because she’s not plus-sized and our society must be totally sick if she is. It made me think about why this comment came up because I hadn’t mentioned anything about her size, neither had I said something about plus size. I had just posted a beautiful women, with a gorgeous body, presenting great underwear (and referred to my Snapchat account for more live pictures of the show – with even more incredibly beautiful women!). By the way: PrimaDonna Lingerie makes underwear and especially bras for bigger cups, which in principle has nothing to do with plus size.

Why do people care so much about this? Why isn’t she allowed to be called plus size if she’s not a specific (let’s call it “obvious plus”) size? “Body Acceptance” doesn’t only mean accepting your own body but also others’ (skinny or fat or anything in between!). It means that you’re not the one who’s deciding about their health, what size they should be, what’s better for them, what’s more beautiful in your opinion. Short: “Body Acceptance” means not running down others’ bodies in order to make yourself feel better in yours.

Sure, it’s not the best message, especially for young girls, to show a woman with an absolutely normal body and call her plus size. But that’s fashion. You’re either size zero or anything else – which is plus size. And unfortunately, in fashion, for some brands or model agencies this already starts at size 38 (EU) instead of a 42, which would be more than enough for starting plus sizes. I’m not calling this okay – this is something that needs to be changed. 38 is not plus size for everybody. It’s a fashion thing. And this is why it’s our responsibility to always remember that this is not real life. Mothers have to remind their daughters that this is business and not a goal for everyone. Girls need to stop putting themselves down by comparing themselves with models in magazines (we all know that they don’t even look like this – it’s all Photoshop!). You’re not supposed to look like somebody else!

Anyways, why do people label each other? Why can’t Myla just be called a model, why do we always have to refer to a size instead of a person? That’s not “Body Acceptance”, that’s judging, even though this time it’s not in a bad way.
But there’s always this tedious discussion about models not being plus size enough, while actual plus size models (thinking of super babe → Tess Holliday!) are called unhealthy, glorifying obesity. What do people want? You can’t please everyone (not only in terms of “plus size”, but in any situation!). You’re either way too thin and not allowed to be called plus size or you’re too fat and not good enough for the term plus size. This discussion is sad and discriminatory for everybody.

Let’s stop labeling people, see them as numbers or sizes and what they “should” be. Let’s look at this picture and see a gorgeous woman with a beautiful, normal body.

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Random Picture Post ♥ N° 51

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ENLet’s start today’s Random Picture Post with a preview of some of my upcoming looks for the blog. We’re shooting a lot on the weekends and I still have a few outfits from April left, can you believe it? Summer is so inspiring and I can’t wait to show you lots of outfits for sunny days! And yes, my relationship with hats is serious. It’s definitely my favorite accessory besides sunglasses…

DEBeginnen wir den heutigen Random Picture Post doch mal mit einer kleinen Vorschau auf ein paar meiner nächsten Looks für den Blog. Wir shooten wirklich viel an den Wockenenden und ich hab’ sogar noch ein paar Outfits von April übrig, könnt ihr das glauben? Sommer ist so inspirierend und ich kann es kaum abwarten, euch ganz viele Outfits für sonnige Tage zu zeigen! Und ja, das mit den Hüten ist wohl eine ernste Beziehung. Neben Sonnenbrillen sind sie definitiv mein liebstes Accessoire…

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ENSome #foodporn right out of my kitchen – salads, salads, salads. Crazy mixtures with strawberries and bacon, on a huge bruschetta bread with buffalo mozzarella, and with quinoa and poached eggs. I’m definitely a salad lover and have so much fun creating new styles with different ingredients.

DEEin bisschen #foodporn direkt aus meiner Küche – Salate, Salate, Salate. Ausgefallene Mischungen mit Erdbeeren und Bacon, auf einem riesigen Bruschetta-Brot mit Büffelmozzarella, und mit Quinoa und pochierten Eiern. Ich bin auf jeden Fall ein Salat-Liebhaber und hab’ wahnsinnig viel Spaß daran, neue Sachen zu kreieren und unterschiedliche Zutaten dafür zu verwenden.

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ENBreakfast, lunch and dessert – here are three locations for you to try in Hamburg:

Café Frohlein (Mühlenkamp 48, 22303 Hamburg) – we had breakfast there on a Sunday and I had French Toast with their homemade vanilla butter and a fresh juice made of oranges, carrots and ginger (oh, I love ginger!). Not in the picture is the little sin I chose afterwards – a chewy brownie with pears! Delicious!
Atelier F (Große Bleichen 31, 20354 Hamburg) – whenever you’re in the city and hungry, you should give it a try. “Atelier F” offers a mixture of French and American food and the burgers are pretty good (and not too big – sometimes that’s a plus, sometimes not, so choose your side dish wisely!). Recently, they added sweet potato fries to their menu and they’re sooo good!
T.R.U.D.E. (Maurienstraße 13-15, 22305 Hamburg) – let’s better not talk about this delicious “Strawberry Mint Cream Cheese Crumble” because only looking at the picture makes me want to eat it right now. ;) Of course, I did not only try this dessert but also a main dish and went for some delicious pasta after we had a shooting nearby (great location, by the way!).

DEFrühstück, Mittagessen und Nachtisch – hier hab’ ich drei Hamburger Locations zum Ausprobieren für euch:

Café Frohlein (Mühlenkamp 48, 22303 Hamburg) – wir haben sonntags mal dort gefrühstückt und ich hatte den French Toast mit hausgemachter Vanillebutter und einen frischgepressten Saft aus Orangen, Karotten und Ingwer (oh, ich liebe Ingwer!). Nicht auf dem Bild: die kleine Sünde, die ich mir danach noch gegönnt habe – ein saftig-klebriger Brownie mit Birnen! Köstlich!
Atelier F (Große Bleichen 31, 20354 Hamburg) – wann immer ihr in der Stadt seid und Hunger habt, solltet ihr “Atelier F” eine Chance geben. Dort gibt es eine Mischung aus französischer und amerikanischer Küche und die Burger sind ziemlich gut (und nicht zu groß – manchmal ist das ganz gut, manchmal nicht, also sucht euch die Beilage passend aus!). Neuerdings haben sie auch Süßkartoffelpommes auf ihrer Karte und die sind richtig gut!
T.R.U.D.E. (Maurienstraße 13-15, 22305 Hamburg) – am besten sprechen wir gar nicht erst über diesen Erdbeer-Minze-Frischkäse-Crumble (auf der Karte “Erdbeeren und Frischkäse”), weil ich nur von diesem Bild schon wieder Lust darauf bekomme. ;) Natürlich hab’ ich nicht nur ein Dessert ausprobiert, sondern hatte nach dem Shooting in der Nähe (tolle Location!) auch ein Mittagessen, nämlich leckere Pasta.

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ENHere we are again – another hairy change. This time, I spent maaaany hours at my hairdresser’s and went gray. Find out more about this story in → this blog post. ;)

DEUnd da sind wir mal wieder – eine weitere haarige Veränderung. Dieses Mal habe ich vieeeele Stunden bei meinem Friseur verbracht und bin ergraut. Mehr darüber gibt’s in → diesem Blogpost. ;)

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ENI went on a tour through Hamburg with my new camera for an article on “Two For Fashion”. I was a tourist in my own city (after I year, I don’t know everything yet) and visited beautiful locations. I was at the harbor in Altona (pretty windy and even though the weather was awful, there were two brides on their way and I learned how to fish in Hamburg: prepare your fishing rod, cast it, fix it to the railing and leave – I’d like to know what happens if a fish takes the bait?!), on top of the “Michel” (pretty windy too and extra wet, but the view compensates for everything, even without sunshine!), at the Alster (Hamburg secretly only consists of water, right?) and in HafenCity, where we shot my → outfit. :)

DEFür einen Artikel bei “Two For Fashion” war ich mit meiner neuen Kamera unterwegs durch Hamburg. Dabei hab’ ich ein bisschen “Tourist in der eigenen Stadt” gespielt (nach einem Jahr hier kenne ich ja doch noch nicht alles) und schöne Locations besucht. Ich war in Altona am Hafen (windige Angelegenheit und trotz Mistwetter waren dort in der kurzen Zeit zwei Bräute unterwegs, außerdem habe ich gelernt, wie man in Hamburg angelt: Angelrute vorbereiten, auswerfen, am Geländer befestigen und weggehen – was genau passiert eigentlich, wenn einer anbeißt?!), auf dem “Michel” (ebenfalls windig und zusätzlich noch ganz schön nass da oben, aber die Aussicht entschädigt, auch ohne Sonnenschein!), an der Alster (Hamburg besteht insgeheim nur aus Wasser, kann das sein?) und in der HafenCity, wo wir zum Abschluss auch noch ein → Outfit geshootet haben. :)

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Happy Caturday, everyone! ;)
(yeah, we know that’s for a Saturday, but how’d you call it on a Sunday?)