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• Private XXIII | One year… •

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…or: what I learned from the end of my relationship.


Photos: Jacqueline Filmore


One year. Today officially marks the day of the end of my last relationship, a year ago. I moved on and I feel like it’s time to have a quick look back and talk about what I learned from everything that’s happened*. So many wonderful things happened in this year, → being single is absolutely fine and I’m actually enjoying it. It’s an amazing chance to be able to get to know myself after all these years. It was important for my very own personal growth and evolution and I’m actually thankful for that. So just in case my ex reads this: thank you for leaving me. You couldn’t have given me something better. You just chose the wrong way how to do it, but it doesn’t matter anymore.

After a break-up it’s hard to understand that this is not the end of the world. Especially if you’re not the one who made the decision to end it all. But luckily, after some time, you realize that there’s something good about it and that it’s actually true that if one door closes, at least another one opens. It took me a few months to accept my new life, my new situation, being single and “alone” but it also made me think about those 8 years in a relationship. Of course, I also found a few errors on my side, but – and that’s what matters in the end – I’ve learned a lot by reflecting about what went wrong. And that’s why I decided to change a lot… here’s 5 things I learned from the end of my relationship.

* I know you all want to know what happened but I still don’t really want to talk about it. Maybe, some day, I will – maybe not. The past is the past and I’m glad that I’ve gotten my closure, even though there’s still a divorce in front of me. Since there were some rumors of abuse: no. He didn’t hurt me physically. 

• Private XXII | Game Changer •

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Photo: Jaqueline Filmore


BEST. DAY. EVER. Some may think I’m talking about my wedding day but nope – the best day of my life so far was Saturday. Not only because I managed to check off another point of my → Single Bucket List and got to see → Lukas Batteau, one of the most amazing musicians ever, but also because I did it alone. Yes. A-L-O-N-E. Somehow, that’s even another point of my bucket list because I actually went on a spontaneous adventure. Since nobody wanted to join me, I decided to go on an adventure by myself. So on Saturday, I sat in my car and drove all the way up to Bad Homburg. My first long drive ever alone. My first time going out alone. My first best decision in life ever.  Okay, I’m kind of exaggerating, but yes – the decision of going on this trip alone was definitely a game changer. 

• 50 Shades of Lu •

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Photos: Jacqueline Filmore (+ me)


Oh, it’s already been ages since I wrote my “10 facts about me” posts. Shame on me! And now they’re even kind of lost because of the latest blog move so you can’t see them anymore and I can’t double-check if I’ve already told you all these curiosities about me. Well…

For my 28th birthday (yesterday), I decided to give you a full load of random facts about me, the person who keeps telling you a little bit too much about her personal life. ;) And now there’s even more information, haha! That’s my birthday gift to you guys, for sticking around for already 9 years on “Lu zieht an.” with me. :)

• Single Bucket List 2018 •

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So this is an idea I came up with when I realized I’ve got plenty of time to do the things I really like or always wanted to do but couldn’t because my partner wasn’t interested in them. Of course, there’s no need for an explicit single bucket list, since you can do it whenever, wherever and with whomever you want. You don’t need to be single nor in a relationship to create those kinds of lists but it’s kind of nice to have a list to check off, plus: I’ve got some plans for 2018 which I really hope I can turn into reality. 

Naturally, I checked the internet for suggestions for my bucket list – the typical “single bucket lists” come with ideas like flirt a lot, drink a lot, kiss strangers, have one-night-stands and party cause you’re free. I may sound a little boring right now, but with almost 28, I don’t feel like doing all those things you do and mostly regret with 16. ;) I want to collect actual memories that make me smile, not think about hangovers and wrong choices of men (and those are too easy to make these days – that’s what I already realized while checking the common dating apps). I want to do something for me, spend some great “me time” and become even more of that new person I introduced you to already. Of course, I’ll enjoy flirting and hopefully have some nice dates and maybe, in the end, find someone that stays with me – but this list is not about finding a new boyfriend. It’s about me being the best company of myself. And that’s what matters. ♥

I decided to share my bucket list (above, you can find a picture of my first draft) with you and update (expand or check off) it as often as possible, that’s why it will always be available to have a look at. ;) And who knows, maybe I’ll share the stories I experience with it with you. ;)