• Welcome to Wonderland •

• Welcome to Wonderland •

6 - Lu zieht an.®

Photos: Wolf-Dieter Schmidt
» Röttenbach
Dress: Ivory + Noir
Pumps: Valentino “Rockstud”
Earrings: Konplott

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Look who’s back! The extravagant Lu! :) No, seriously, I’m happy to finally show you something more special again!

I wore this fancy dress at the Plus Size Fashion Days after show party – not exactly combined like this because I had to stick to my look from the show (no time for a different make-up afterwards) and I had to wear other shoes cause I knew my feet would be dead after two days in high heels and, to be honest, these aren’t my comfiest heels, even though they’re the most perfect match for the dress.

I ordered this dress via Instagram from Canada and I was actually scared that it wouldn’t arrive in time but I was lucky. The quality could be a little bit better but it’s still a showstopper and I’m glad I bought it. Let’s just hope for another occasion to wear it! :)

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• Private XVIII | #metoo •

• Private XVIII | #metoo •

* Trigger Warning – you may not want to read this if you’re a victim of sexual assault *

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I don’t even know where to start. I’ve already written about sexual harassment in → this and → this Private post, but I feel like there is more to say, more stories to tell. It’s time to make this problem even more public and concrete in order to make things change. Because it just can’t go on like this.

After Alyssa Milano’s tweet because of the current Harvey Weinstein scandal, the reactions were huge. I, too, put the words “me too” on my private Facebook account because, like – I dare to say it – every woman, I’ve been sexually harassed. Not only once or twice, it keeps happening every single day. Just because I’m online.

Thinking back, I think the first time I’ve been sexually harassed, actually assaulted, happened when I was 15 years old during a one-week internship we had to do thanks to school. I chose to go to a travel agency that’s also a post office. The owner of the agency was a friend of my parents. His son, at that time 30 years old, managed the post office. Of course, I thought he’s cute and interesting (cause with 15, older guys are always more interesting than the stupid boys around you – at least I thought so) but I never thought about what could happen these days. I never provoked it. One of these days I was alone with him, sorting old travel catalogues for his father, when he suddenly appeared behind me and kissed my neck. At first, I was flattered. I didn’t know better. We kissed and during lunch break, he took me home to see his mother, a good friend of my mom – and then he took me one floor up, to his own apartment. Where he wanted me to put my hand on his penis. I refused, said that I don’t want to. He tried to convince me, said that it’s nothing bad, took my hand and put it on his erect penis, over his pants. I felt ashamed and confused, I didn’t want this. The situation was weird and I didn’t feel good about it. The last two days at the agency were weird, I felt dirty and disgusted. Only years later, I told my parents what had happened. This was definitely the worst story of them all in my 27 years on this Earth, being a woman.

I’ve been catcalled by construction workers when walking through the city, during daytime. At a teen party in our city’s “E-Werk” (a party, concert and culture venue), a boy put his t-shirt over my head from behind and rubbed his dick on my ass before he disappeared without saying a word. When waiting for the bus alone at the station in our little village, truck drivers always slowed down and honked when they drove past me – I was probably 16 when it happened most often. Another guy kept grabbing my boobs while kissing though I kept saying that I don’t want this and he should stop.

And then there’s tons of guys on social media, mostly from Arabic countries, that keep sending me dick pics, asking for “nudes”, proposals, weird sex offers (a 17 years old boy asked me to take his virginity) and other “love messages”. This is my daily life on Instagram and Facebook. Just because I post pictures of myself. And obviously because I’m fat and please their fetish and deserve to hear that they want to “suck my asshole dry”.

This is not okay. And what’s even worse, is still that discussion about what women can do to prevent this. NO! It’s still not about us women. It is about men. I’m not saying that all men are sexual harassers. Not all of them do this shit, but all of them are in this and all of them have to change something about it. Those who are not involved in sexual harassment should do something instead of watching and ignoring. Teach your friends, tell them when they’re doing something wrong. It’s not like men and boys are wearing constant blinders and not noticing all this. They just prefer to say nothing cause that’s the easiest way. But this is the worst you can do. Remaining silent when there’s a situation where you should take the fall for somebody – this has to change!

We need to teach our children. Teach our sons that all this is not okay. Teach our daughters that they shouldn’t choose silence when it happens. We need to teach our kids respect, how to treat each other, how to accept a “no” (and that a “no” doesn’t always mean that someone declines you at all, so it doesn’t mean that you have to become insulting and aggressive and – worst case – a rapist). We need to teach men that clothes are not an invitation. Clothes don’t make you a rapist, but your disgusting mind.

We need to talk about it. As often as it’s needed. Until something changes. We need to end the generation of #metoo. I want my friends to be safe. I want myself to be safe. And if it means that I have to write about it once, twice, three times or even more in order to make a change, I’ll do so. I don’t want to remain silent, I don’t want to ignore this problem. And I will always open my mouth to shout when it happens to me, when it happens to others.

• Cozy Flowers •

• Cozy Flowers •

7 - Lu zieht an.®

Photos: Wolf-Dieter Schmidt
» Röttenbach
Sweater: Yessica
Pants: Yessica
Boots: C&A (old)
Hat: Clockhouse (old)
Bag: Gucci “Dionysus”
Earrings: Chanel
Bracelet: Hermès
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Hands up, who remembers this background? Those of you who already follow me and the blog for more than 3 years, will have a major flashback! ;) I have to be honest: I really miss the minimalistic photo locations in Hamburg but it’s kind of funny to be back with my retro style for the outfit photos. I guess as long as I’m here, this will be a recurring background, but I’m trying my best to still offer you some different looks. ;)

This is my second style with and for C&A for fall. It was actually supposed to go online in September but because of the Plus Size Fashion Days (where I also walked for C&A in a lovely outfit!) and my sick time in bed, I just managed to shoot this look right now.

I couldn’t find the sweater online, it may be sold out, but you should look for it in your nearest store if you love it as much as I do. I hope you can find it there!

This is a super easy and cozy look for fall. I came to appreciate these kinds of outfits during my first time without an actual closet. Of course, I’m still that extravagant person you know but my priorities changed a bit and I learned that it’s absolutely fine to wear something basic – you can always make it your own with the right accessories or a special make-up. And you don’t need a certain outfit to be happy. It’s about feeling good and yes, this comes also from clothes when you feel cozy and comfy, but it’s also about where you wear it and with whom. ;) #friendsandfamily

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• Recap | August & September •

• Recap | August & September •

There’s finally happening a little bit more here on the blog – thanks to a little photo session I had in August when I was in Düsseldorf. But there were also a few events, including the highly anticipated Plus Size Fashion Days in Hamburg at the end of September! I still don’t have all pictures (and I don’t know if there’ll be a video), so I’m waiting until I got all the material for a blog post. ;)

So here’s my recap of August and September…

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