• Private VIII | Fat •

• Private VIII | Fat •

“You’re not fat, you’re beautiful!”

I very often read this and it is probably one of the comments that hurt fat people the most, even though its intention is to make someone happy and feel good. And even though at first it doesn’t even sound so bad, if you think about it, it’s not as nice as you might think.

You’re beautiful. Period.

Unfortunately, our society is still not open-minded enough to understand that “fat” doesn’t equal bad or ugly while “skinny” is the synonym for beauty and everything positive.
Being fat implies that at least one thing about you is negative – your body. And because of that you can’t be beautiful in the eyes of our society. Why’s that? This is completely wrong!

You can be skinny and beautiful and you can be fat and beautiful. There is no right and wrong.

But then again, there are those people who like to say: “If you just lost a few pounds, you’d be gorgeous!” – oh really? If you used your brain, you might be able to say something more intelligent!
If people think that I’m beautiful, why would they recommend that I lose weight to be “perfect” in their eyes? Just because I don’t fit in their manipulated idea of beauty, I don’t have to change for them. It’s them who need to change – to open their minds and start accepting diversity, other forms of beauty and that we don’t have to fulfill the beauty standards of our stupid society.

Please stop these insulting compliments! Because it’s not nice to tell someone that his or her beauty depends on their body shape – and your opinion about it.

“Stop calling yourself fat!”

Why should I? I’ve accepted my body and I’ve accepted that I am fat. Because I am fat. I am overweight and I wear an average size 44. There’s nothing wrong about it – as long as I am healthy and feel good, as long as I accept myself like this. And if I don’t, I should change something about it. May it be weight loss or a change of my look, my clothes, my hairstyle – everything is possible to make myself feel better.

It’s not about someone else telling me what I should think about myself or what I should call myself, even though telling me that I’m not fat is supposed to cheer me up. And it’s also not the right compliment to tell me that I’ve lost weight or look skinnier – it just feels like it because in our society, being thin is the ultimate and if you’ve achieved the goal of being skinny, people will be amazed by your “power” and “strength” and “discipline” – because fat people are non of this, they don’t have power, aren’t strong and discipline’s not part of their vocabulary. Oh hell!
Let’s start complimenting people by telling them how great they are, how amazing their characters are – not their bodies. Of course it’s right to compliment someone by telling them that you can see the change when someone’s working hard to feel better, but “you lost weight – you look great!” isn’t the best way to do so. It will continue to brainwash us all to think that being fat is the worst thing you can be.

I am fat.
AND beautiful.
AND happy.
AND sexy.
AND successful.
AND funny.
AND strong.
AND proud.
(AND SO MUCH MORE.)

♥

• Private IV | #ImNoAngel •

• Private IV | #ImNoAngel •

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Photos: Charosé
Lingerie: Agent Provocateur
“Cassia”, ”Tina” and “Iyla” bra
H&M+ pants

A few days ago, the Victoria’s Secret Show 2015 was filmed in New York and will air on December 8. There was a lot of trouble going on and I felt the need to post a picture on → Instagram, which is supposed to send you a special message. Somehow, I guess that’s not enough, more like a drop in the ocean (and I got to read a few very sad comments from people who either didn’t get the message or just were rude, mindless idiots), but as we should never stop talking about size diversity and body positivity and especially do something against body shaming, I take these pictures from my latest shooting with → Mici (who has this great project → Charosé with her friend → Summer, two great bloggers, by the way!) and want to spread the words I have to say and hopefully change a few minds.

Here’s what I wrote under → my picture on Instagram:

“With all that #victoriassecretshow trouble going on, it’s time to remind yourselves that these models’ bodies aren’t the only body type that’s good – every body can be beautiful, sexy, admirable and something to look up to. You’re not worth less only because you don’t look like all those “Angels” on stage. You’re not less sexy because you have a big belly or thick thighs, you’re not disgusting because you don’t have a six pack or no thigh gap. Please always remember: you’re not supposed to look like an underwear model, they shouldn’t be your number one goal and you’re allowed to be yourself, fully dressed, in underwear or naked. You’re good the way you are. Oh and because I like to promote size diversity and not body shaming: the models look great, that’s not the point! It’s about loving yourself and accepting not only your body but also other people’s bodies.”

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• Plus Size Fashion Days Hamburg 2015 •

• Plus Size Fashion Days Hamburg 2015 •

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Photos: Andreas Grav and Belmondo Photography for Plus Size Fashion Days

Today, I want to share a few pictures of this year’s → Plus Size Fashion Days here in Hamburg with you. It’s been a crazy and incredible time, a (hopefully not really) once-in-a-lifetime experience and so much fun! Tanja, the founder of our German PSFDays asked me if I wanted to be a part of it, to be one of the models on the runway, and I didn’t hesitate one second and said yes. Being part of this body positive and especially size diversity project is an honor and seriously: I really wanted to be a model at least for one day – because I’m actually way too small to do it professionally (so sad about this!).

Of course, there’s lots of work and training behind the whole show, we started on Thursday with the fittings and I was chosen to walk for Manou Lenz, Happy Size and Beautiful Curves. I was extremely happy with my outfits, two beautiful dresses, color and the prettiest hot pink lingerie for my last walk. Yup, you’re reading right: lingerie. Underwear. Half-naked. Me. Let me say: my whole body was shaking, my heart was bumping like a machine gun and my knees felt like melted butter when I stood there, next to all the other girls fully dressed. ;) But it was amazing. The house was full and the audience freaked out when we stepped outside in the dark and the lights went on. So, so crazy! Too much adrenaline going on! ;)

Unfortunately, being a model made it impossible for me to take pictures, but luckily my husband had a seat in the front row as my blogger assistant and made a few snapshots. And thank God there were lots of professional photographers ( for example → Belmondo Photography and → Andreas Grav) and I’m allowed to share their pictures with you. :)

The official video isn’t online yet but hopefully soon – of course, I’ll update this post as soon as it’s available and let you know about it on my social media channels. ;) So don’t forget to follow me on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. And maybe even on Snapchat (luziehtan). ;)

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