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• Private XXIV | Different •

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I want to be different. Don’t get me wrong, this is not going to be an “I’m so much better than the others” or “I’m such a special snowflake” post – but it’s going to be an honest one telling you that the current image of plus-size bloggers and/or influencers does not make me happy. In fact, I’m pretty annoyed right now by the whole way of appearance the business chose to go for. And I’m annoyed by the fact that I’m somehow a part of it.

I am definitely not prudish or pedantic, but I believe that the whole current “sex sells” thing is kind of becoming too much and also not really helpful for how plus-size actually wants to be seen by the world. We keep asking for acceptance and tolerance and at the same time there are so many of my colleagues posting clearly sexual, sometimes even pretty cheap-looking pictures or videos of them on Social Media, obviously looking for attention and craving for followers – not or just partly for the actual body positivity movement.

Yes, I myself have also already posted lots of photos of myself in underwear, even naked, and I’m a true believer that it has to be and is a part of body positivity and empowerment to love and also show yourself in a sexy way. But I feel like it’s kind of getting out of control and becoming a provocation and show-off instead of an actual statement.

I believe that sexuality and also pictures showing that fat people are sexy and have sex are important. These pictures have to be seen as well as skinny peoples’ sexuality in order to change something. The media needs women “like us” to show themselves the same way as skinny women in ads and on international catwalks. The world needs to see women of all kinds, without the “magic” of Photoshop but with the power of self-love and self-confidence that empowers other women to understand that they are amazing just the way they are. There is no need to look like a model, no need to try to look like an unrealistic ideal, no need to change yourself and force yourself into something you’re not. This also applies to disabled bodies, trans bodies and any other body that does not reflect our society’s ideal body type – the skinny and photoshopped one.

But I also believe that plus-size women can be and are so much more than just sexy. I believe that we don’t need to show ourselves all of the time in underwear or naked or upload provocatively sexual pictures when especially on Social Media the actual feedback comes mostly from very disgusting examples of men who don’t even give a fuck about our [body positivity] message but keep telling us how hot we are and then sending us dick pics or harassing us in any other way, while there might be only a handful of women who do think that this is awesome, but still too brave, so they say that they’d never do this cause they’re afraid.

You guys know how important body positivity is to me. And this post is not supposed to shame my blogging and instagramming colleagues. Still, I want to be different. I don’t want to be a part of the “sex sells” movement. Because I feel that I don’t belong to that kind of movement anymore. I don’t wanna promote body positivity by being naked all the time. By shaking my boobs in front of a camera. By showing my naked butt fullsized on a picture. By typing trivial quotes under racy pictures of myself I’d only send to my imaginary boyfriend.

I want to keep writing texts, inspiring and motivating you through words and an actual message.

Of course I’ll still be posting some underwear pictures from time to time. Just because they’re a part of it and because I’m a firm believer that we have nothing to hide as plus-size women. I know that “sex sells” will always be a thing and that’s fine – it’s been like that since what feels like forever and that’s okay. I just don’t feel like being a part of that. I’m actually annoyed that I’ve been a part of that superficial and hollow subculture. Being a fashion blogger is indeed a pretty hollow job if you don’t make it special enough by having a message. And of course, it’s also okay to be one without having a message – you don’t always have to have something to say and it’s not always about being a role model. I’ve never really seen myself as one, even though I know about the responsibility I have by posting pictures of me – however they look like. I know that I want to empower other women (and all genders/identities), I know that I want to motivate and inspire people. Show that being fat is not a problem or the end of the world. You are what you make of it. It’s on you to choose your way. And I chose mine.

• Private XIX | Unapologetically me. •

By Posted on 48 6.9K views

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Photos: Sung-Hee Seewald

During interviews, the question “Did you always feel good in your body?” is usually one of the first questions. As if it was a masterly performance to be satisfied with yourself or as if I should rather lie and/or be ashamed of it – because I’m fat. And I should feel bad about it. Thanks!

Of course I know that it’s not the easiest thing to look at yourself (especially naked) in the mirror and say “Hey, I’m awesome the way I am!” if everybody and everything is telling you all the time that you’re not – unless you change this and that and most important: you lose weight. Because only as a thin person you’re a valuable part of this society, accepted and tolerated, beautiful and desirable. If you’re fat, the best “compliment” you can expect is that you have a pretty face – usually this is weakened by a passing “If you were thin…” plus a random positive development you could achieve in your life. Be it with men, at your job, anywhere: if you’re skinny, you’re automatically better. And then, when you’re thinner, you notice that it wasn’t that much worth it, because if you’re not fundamentally happy with yourself, the few sizes less won’t change anything. Only the diet industry will be cheering loudly cause they recruited another disciple, a new member of their “sect”, for which counting calories or “points” is as holy and will bring you the same light as twelve “Ave Maria”. Isn’t it sad to think negatively about food and yourself all the time? Is that really worth it?

Now I’ve certainly been a lot thinner 8 years ago when I started this blog. I wasn’t skinny-skinny but a lot skinnier than today. Back then, I wore an average EU size 38, today it’s 44-48. For some who approach me about that from time to time, it seems to be a catastrophe of a horrible dimension, they’re horrified and convinced that it should be some kind of apocalypse for me, they can’t understand at all how something “like this” could happen, and they’re left pretty confused when they see that I’m not as distraught as they are. Cause for me, it’s really not that terrible.

• Private XVI | Embrace •

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Photo: “Embrace” / CinemaxX PR

CinemaxX kindly invited me to watch “Embrace” with a few other lovely women (best company ever to watch this movie!) on May 11. I know it’s been some time, but of course, I want to drop a few lines about the movie and what I think about it.

You all know that body positivity is my daily routine. It’s very important to me and when other women share the same message, it makes me very happy. The fact that the documentary movie “Embrace” found its way into German theaters is so amazing, even though it was very disappointing to see that in most of the cinemas who showed it, the movie was only played once on one single day. This documentary should be obligatory for young people – mainly girls, of course, but also boys. Because they also know the struggle of body shaming and self-hate. And if they don’t, they might learn an important lesson about women and how it is and feels like to live in a body that’s never good enough – until you decide for yourself to change this feeling and embrace yourself.

• Private XIV | My Body – My Rules •

By Posted on 50 4.5K views

I’m not growing tired of writing these posts, repeating my message and hopefully reaching as many people out there as possible. My message consists of many parts – these are only a few:

“Love yourself. Wear whatever you want, whenever you want. Don’t judge others based on their appearance. Accept yourself and accept others. Don’t let others get you down.”

I’m currently feeling pretty disturbed by a few things that are happening. For example there was an H&M campaign not much time ago. Let’s not talk about the stupid marketing strategy (“Oh – feminism is trend, so let’s do an ad and pretend we’re cool and care about women and their rights and feelings, like working with plus-sized models but removing our plus-size selection from all our stores!”) but the reactions. I felt extremely enraged when I read the comments on diverse pages where the video was shared, especially on Facebook.
Let me just quickly explain what happens in the video: there are women. Women of all kinds, they’re different. There’s a plus model dancing in underwear in front of her mirror. A very muscular woman. An androgynous woman. Another one who cleans her teeth in the middle of a restaurant with the help of her knife as a mirror. And there’s a woman with armpit hair.

While you’d think that – as always – the fat woman will make everyone go crazy and full of hate, this time it’s the woman with hairy armpits. Because if there’s one thing that seems to be even more disgusting than a fat girl being happy, it’s hairy women. The comments I read were “gross”, “disgusting”, “unkempt” – and then there were others like: “Women need to shave themselves!”, “Hairy women aren’t sexy!”, “I’d never fuck a hairy woman!”, “I’m a woman myself and not shaving is so disgusting and not feminine!” and so on. So, the first few comments are simply stupid – why should body hair be unkempt? It’s natural! It’s actually not natural to shave. Yet we do so, cause we’re taught to do it. Some of us do it because they think it’s more hygienic. But seriously – hair isn’t “not hygienic” if you simply take a shower and wash yourself. Hair doesn’t equal smelly people. Hair doesn’t equal dirt. Body hair is absolutely normal.
But then there’s the second version of comments. They’re clearly sexist. And bullshit. And most of them didn’t even come from men. As a feminist, it makes me sad to read these words coming from other women. From those who should be supporting others. Those who know what it is and feels like to be a woman, how it is to mostly just be a body that is being judged by everyone and never good enough.

And a few days ago, I had to see the same kind of bullshit again – this time in a weird and totally stupid ad from a German online and catalog shop, OTTO, who collaborated with a well-known German designer, Guido Maria Kretschmer (whom I really don’t like because he loves to say insulting things about people in a TV show called “Shopping Queen” and everybody loves him because of that). The ad shows the designer with two dachshunds (and another woman, the main woman’s “friend”) and then the woman comes in, wearing a summer dress, twirling around and eventually throwing her arms in the air – revealing her armpit hair. The “friend” looks pretty irritated and the designer instantly comments that she should “leave the two dachshunds at home” and hands her a cardigan which she, obviously kind of ashamed, puts on as quick as possible – and they live happily ever after.

SERIOUSLY? It’s 2017 and we’re all fighting for feminism, equality, body positivity, individuality and so much more and yet there’s people thinking it’s cool to create such ads. Of course, you don’t have to think that armpit hair is beautiful, but you should accept that there are women who simply don’t want to shave just because our sexist society expects us women to be hair-free. Because it’s “not feminine enough” when we have hairy armpits or legs or arms or vaginas. Because as a woman, we are supposed to remove any unwanted hair, because it’s disgusting and not sexy. Wait? What? Who decided that this bullshit is the guideline of my life as a woman?

Some days ago I went to an amazing photo shoot with six other beautiful women and we were a happy bunch of diversity. Tall women, short women, an ombré of skin colors, skinny women and fat women (and if you want to say so – with me, even a kind of disabled woman, thanks to my diabetes, but I guess we still need to work a lot on featuring more “actually disabled” people for diversity stuff!). One of them – she’s so beautiful! – had armpit hair, and it may sound weird but it made me happy to see it. She was all “I don’t care” about it and when someone asked her about it, she told her that she hasn’t shaved since she was 15 years old. It made me happy to see a woman who’s free. Free of the oppression of what’s supposedly feminine. Free because she didn’t care. And it made me feel free too when I saw it. For a second, I thought about telling her what I felt, but then I realized: it shouldn’t be a thing. Why talk about it with someone who’s clearly decided to say “Fuck you, society – I’m doing my own thing!”? Right – there’s no need to talk about it because it is normal! Normal to decide for yourself what you want to do with your body and how you feel about it. Period.

P.S.: This also applies to many other looks of women, I just picked one of those which are obviously still used for public body shaming. Remember the Dove campaign I was part of? There was, for example, a very muscular woman – she’s absolutely great and I love how she mixes this super sporty and fierce look with cute or elegant dresses – and the comments were like “this isn’t feminine”, “a woman’s not supposed to look like this”, “this is ugly and too manly” etc. I guess there’s still a long way to go and many battles to fight against body shaming, sexism, lookism and our society’s stupid standards, but it’s so worth it and we should never stop standing up for each other! Even if we don’t choose that particular way for ourselves.

P.P.S.: About why I chose to pose naked for a public photo – yes, this time it’s definitely brave to post something like this where everybody can see me like this. It’s one big step further than just showing myself in a bikini or even underwear, but I felt like this picture was the best way to deliver today’s message. This is me, raw and unedited, in no way trying to be sexy or vulgar, just with my most private parts hidden, even though it shouldn’t be a thing to see breasts and nipples, but you know, it’s always better to keep that hidden on the Internet. ;) It actually wasn’t easy for me to decide to post this, but I kind of felt like – as with my beach body photos too – I want to be one of those who “give” you a natural body, a body that’s not photoshopped to “perfection”, a body with “flaws” like my hanging belly with stretch marks, my CGMS and my insulin pump, a fat body which is as amazing as a skinny body, as a muscular body, as a disabled body,… – just as a body. Yes, it’s scary to be online like this, but I’ve always seen my “Private” posts as a very honest and also vulnerable side of me, a side that wants to inspire others (nah, you don’t have to get naked now and post it, that’s not my intention!) because of my self-confidence and self-love, which should be absolutely natural for everybody. ♥